Sunday, November 30, 2008

My Home and Native Land


I'm just back from a few days north of the 49th where I escaped for a bit of a break over the Thanksgiving holiday and used the time to catch up with both family and friends. The more I go back to Canada (and hence the longer I've been gone), the more I appreciate what a unique and special place it is. I love being reminded of all the little cultural nuances that are newly fresh to me after having been in the US for so many years now.


Here's a sampling:

-- I ordered a sandwich and was asked "white bread or brown bread"? I'd forgotten that we say "brown bread" instead of "wheat" or "whole wheat".

-- We put our windows on "opposite ends" in the warmer months when it starts to rain outside. The double-paned storm windows can be opened so that fresh air can snake its way inside, but the rain won't. I've never once heard this expression in the US. Come to think of it, I've never seen the same kind of windows that can accommodate "opposite ends" either.

-- We park in a "parkade", not in a "parking garage" or "parking structure". (Honestly, my American friends, please adopt "parkade" -- it's so much shorter and easier!)

-- Canadian hockey announcers use words like "chippy" to describe a team that's hitting particularly hard and often.

-- Everyone knew what I meant when I referred to my "runners"!

-- [Almost] everyone is uber polite and friendly whether it's the hotel concierge, the cashier at the drugstore, the waiter at The Keg or just random people in shops and on the streets. I never hear "pardon me", "excuse me" and "sorry" as much down south. (And in Canada, it's more like "so-rry" instead of "saw-ry".)

O Canada --The True North strong and free!

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Happy Go Lucky!

Sometimes you walk out of a movie theatre absolutely blown away by what you’ve just seen, either because the story was so engaging, the characters so alive and compelling or the dialogue so fresh, clever and witty. Not often, but sometimes you can even find a film that brings all of these elements (and more) together into a true cinematic tour de force.

Special K and I both walked out of the theatre last weekend after having seen the British film, “Happy Go Lucky”, feeling like we had just had exactly that experience.

This is SO much more than just the “feel good” movie of the year. Sally Hawkins deserves an Oscar nod for her portrayal of the ever-optimistic Poppy, whose undying positive outlook gets on the nerves of many of those around her. In the opening scenes of the movie, you’re not sure what to think of her because she’s so quirky, but by the end of the movie, you wish she was your best friend.

Eddie Marsan also delivers a perfectly tense and anguished performance as a London driving instructor cum conspiracy theorist/uber-pessimist. The juxtaposition of these two characters illustrates just how important perspective is and reminds us that life is too short to be unhappy.

I can’t recommend this film highly enough. In these tough economic times, the key messages of this film are very timely and refreshing. And even if you don’t want to see the film at such an analytical level, I guarantee that Poppy’s antics and witty repartee will make you double over with laughter.

And that’s definitely worth something.

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Cruz-ing on a Sunday Afternoon

Last Sunday, I had an itch that needed to be scratched. I was feeling penned in. I needed to get out of Silicon Valley and stretch a bit. I hadn’t thought about it until the following Monday when one of my colleagues remarked, “wow, you felt like you had to get away – but you’re hardly ever even here.”

Special K refers to this as my ongoing restlessness. I prefer to think of it as my own personal tribute to Newtonian physics: “A body in motion stays in motion unless acted upon by some outside force.” I’m just the larger, more obvious embodiment of all those vibrating atoms and molecules that comprise my rarely-at-rest body and mind. (For the record, the only “outside force” that has been able to regularly cause me to illustrate the corolloary to this law of motion, “A body at rest stays at rest”, is Special K, primarily when we are curled up together on the couch, drifting off for an unplanned mid-day nap. But I digress.)


Back to last Sunday… I enthusiastically caved into my restlessness and jumped in the car and headed south to Santa Cruz. I’d never been before, but I’d read a few things that made me curious about the seaside town where Ferrari-driving yuppies and tofu-eating bohemians peacefully co-exist in their own little slice of beachy paradise. Santa Cruz also seemed to have a kind of interesting, albeit non-traditional history, really coming into its hippie-self in the 60’s when the University of California system dropped anchor on what would become the UC Santa Cruz campus.

It was a gorgeous day in NoCal and it seemed like the perfect day to hit the beach. I took a sweater thinking it would be cooler by the water, but I ended up leaving it in the car because it was over 80 degrees. I pulled off the winding highway that leads to the small town and eased my way through the quiet late Sunday morning streets until I came to the water … and the Beach Boardwalk.


The Beach Boardwalk is NoCal’s answer to Coney Island. It’s a stretch of beachside amusement park, packed with arcades, games, a rollercoaster, merry-go-round, fun house and no end of kiosks selling more types of food on a stick than you ever thought possible. A fun place for families with small kids for sure, but it also smacked of the sort of seediness that only idle teenagers in their hoodies and Vans can bring to a scene.


I wandered along the Boardwalk towards the wharf and made my way out over the water, passing by a number of small shops and restaurants. I started to hear a vaguely familiar sound – almost like horns, but at irregular intervals and from more than one source. As I got a few steps further, the bleating got louder and recognized it as the barking of sea lions. I scanned the water for any sign of them, but didn’t see so much as one slick little head peeping out from the surface. But every step I took, the barking got louder and louder. Then I realized that they must be UNDER the wharf.


When I rounded the corner of the last little building on the pier, I came across three sections that had been cut out of the deck of the pier, outlined with railings so that people could lean and look down and watch the sea lions slumber on the wharf’s cross-beams, slip in and out of the water and of course, bark at one another. I watched the various characters for the better part of 45 minutes and also managed to get *this* close to multiple pelicans who would alight on the railings in search of scraps from the fisherman who cast their lines into the ocean below.


Next, I climbed West Cliff Drive, one of the most gorgeous coastal drives I’ve seen. This well-known street winds its way along the top the cliff and separates some unbelievably beautiful homes from the Pacific Ocean down below. The surfers were also out in full force, enjoying some great waves.


Santa Cruz truly lives up to its identity as a town of juxtaposition. West Cliff Drive with its million dollar-plus homes and luxury car-filled garages is literally just half a mile from the battered 50’s style motels that dot the streetscape across from the boardwalk, right where a Rastafarian-esque busker strums a guitar, seemingly less concerned about the money he’s collecting than he is about how his sleepy, slightly skinny mixed-breed dog seems to be enjoying the fruits of his latest song-writing efforts.


A few hours and a couple of snacks later, I climbed in my car and made my way to the highway, pointing myself north back to the Valley, still warm from the sun, happy because of the sea lions and pelicans and decidedly less restless because I’d followed my nomadic urges, even if just for a 30 minute jaunt to the beach.

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Rouge ou Blanc?

What a glorious weekend in the Bay Area! Unseasonably warm temperatures and lots of sunshine - it's enough to make me momentarily think that I'm actually in SoCal instead.

Yesterday, I headed up to San Francisco to meet Nick and Brandon who were in town from New York. Very exciting because I hadn't seen Nick in ages and this would be my first opportunity to meet the much-talked-about Brandon. Also, coincidentally, Jena and Eric were in town this weekend too and although completely unplanned, both sets of friends were staying at the hip Hotel Triton. (Quick history: Nick, Jena and I all used to work together in NYC. Nick and Jena still work together, but at a different company now.)

We planned to meet at the wine bar, Rouge & Blanc, next to Hotel Triton for drinks, appetizers and to catch up. Unfortunately, I didn't have Jena's cell phone number with me (it, along with dozens of others, never made the migration from my old phone to my iPhone, darn it) and so we completely missed each other, but Nick and Brandon made it and we had a blast catching up and enjoying both rouge and blanc to their fullest.

And luckily, I got Jena's phone number from Nick and now we've re-connected and will still hopefully see each other before she and Eric head back to NY. So much fun to see some familiar faces from the east coast!

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Things That Are On My Mind At This Very Moment

-- How did it get to be November 15 already? It's practically Christmas. In fact, I'm newly amazed at where this entire YEAR has gone.

-- How long can I get away with not putting my license plates on my car?

-- What will the fate of General Motors be and how will that impact everything else? Stay in cash for a while longer or take advantage of low stock prices?

-- How can it possibly be fair that I pay an exorbitant amount in taxes each year, yet I can't vote on anything. Taxation without representation. Some democracy.

-- Will the Calgary Flames ever win another Stanley Cup? (Will they even make it to the playoffs???)

-- What pushes someone to take such desperate measures that are at best unethical and at worst illegal and horrific?

-- Should I drive or take the train to San Francisco today?

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Drive Like You Mean It

I love to drive. Let me clarify that -- I love to drive when I can drive fast and when I don't have to deal with tentative, unfocused or just plain bad drivers. Not so much to ask for right? Actually, it seems to be a pretty tall order these days, especially when California streets and freeways are involved.

Having also lived in Los Angeles (and area), I notice that NoCal drivers move on average about 10 mph slower than SoCal drivers when it comes to open freeway driving. Even on city surface streets, I seem to regularly get stuck behind people who are consistently driving anywhere between 5 and 15 mph below the speed limit.

One of the biggest challenges with NoCal freeways are the merge lanes. They are short and an off-ramp lane is usually positioned about 25 yards after an on-ramp lane which means that cars are trying to get on the freeway at the exact same point that others are trying to get off. The result is rarely one of those TV commercial-inspired, perfectly choreographed weaving of the vehicles in question, so that no one even has to touch their brakes, but everyone is able to smoothly drift into the lane they need and be on their way. No, the result is usually chaos, with slammed brakes, near rear-endings, the occasional horn and a shot of adrenalin just to keep you sharp.

One of the things that I really like about the Silicon Valley/San Jose area is the abundance of "expressways" that allow you to avoid the freeways but still allow you to cover good distance fairly quickly because of the limited number of traffic signals. I have just barely made countless flights out of the San Jose airport simply because I used Central Expressway to get to the airport instead of the 101. But the problem with most of the expressways is that it can be a challenge to get on them from the very short merge lanes that bleed onto them every half mile or so. I can't count the number of times I 've been stuck behind someone as they come to a complete stop in a merge lane. I guess maybe it's a combination of Type A personality traits peppered with a bit of left over New York impatience that propels me to accelerate, signal and just nudge my way into the passing traffic.

Many times, I sort of force the issue, I guess.

But sometimes you have to.

Monday, November 3, 2008

Trick or Treat!

Last week, someone in the office asked (maybe a bit rhetorically), "When did Halloween become a full-fledged season instead of just a single day?" It did seem this year that Halloween was everywhere for a long, long time prior to October 31.

In the office, we had quite a festive time on Friday, complete with a pumpkin-carving contest, a mini ping-pong tournament and a power outage. Ok, so maybe the power outage wasn't all that festive (since it halted the ping-pong tourney in the semi-finals), but it did provide us with an excuse to view the carved pumpkins in the dark, with candles glowing from within.

Aldo won the prize for the best costume. You can check out a photo of it here at Posterous. Maria, Albee and I were doubled over laughing for ages because we thought it was so clever.

I "dressed up" by simply pinning a bag of Salt 'n Vinegar Lays to my shirt and voila, suddenly I became "All That & a Bag of Chips". I know, it's a bit cheesy, but it did get some good giggles. (Although I have to admit that I ended up having to make myself a little sign because some of my colleagues thought I was trying to pass myself off as a poor rendition of a vending machine.)

Special K flew in on Friday night to come and see me for the weekend ... when I picked him up at the airport, he had peel 'n stick numbers all over his shirt and pants... he was truly "someone you can count on". (We went for sushi after leaving the airport and our curious waiter finally asked Special K, "So, do you really like math or something?")

Last weekend, we had a Halloween party in Orange County that we were able to go to at the last minute, but because we had thought we weren't going to be able to make it, we hadn't really thought through the costume angle. We ended up going as "E-Male and His Attachment" -- Special K with a giant "E" emblazoned on his chest and me with large gold paperclips pinned all over my shirt and jeans.

You can bet that Special K didn't forget the attachment this time.

Go, P.J., Go!!







Here are the couple of photos I promised from PJ's big day on Bingo America. Even "Al" looks genuinely thrilled and happy for our hero!

When I am 80 years old and sitting in a rest home, playing bingo in the big common hall, I will STILL remember G58.